FSDW members want to become pregnant through sperm donation- DIY Baby™!- they want to find a donor for private sperm donation, or who will offer their sperm for IVF at a clinic, or perhaps want to find a sperm donor for shared parenting (co-parenting) You work
out your own arrangement- because how you do this is up to you!
All we ask is that you abide by our Behaviour Code.
FSDW help you connect- you do the rest! Anonymous sperm donation, 'uncle' type role, even co-parenting- you decide
- start by connecting here, in the
FSDW Members Only Area
Free Sperm Donations Worldwide was
created in 2004
by Child Behaviour Advisor
and Family Coach Emma Hartnell-Baker- known worldwide as 'The Child Listener™'
Although controversial, she felt that many people who wanted desperately to be parent- and would make wonderful parents!- were limited in their choices, because of marital status, sexuality, fertility issues and more. She didnt feel this was fair.
With the abolishment of sperm donor anonimity within the UK at that time there was a decrease in available sperm. Emma knew that many men still wanted to help- but without the knoweldge that a child - or children- could come knocking on their door at aged 18. She felt that there had to be an alternative- and especially as women and infertile couples were finding other ways to become pregnant that were risky and often a recipe for disaster. The safe, socially acceptable route- ie through a clinic - was often unavailable - or the process too costly, intrusive or lengthy- for many women and couples.
She decided, therefore, to create FSDW -as a way for men to be able to make choices with regards to donation- ie who they donate to and on what terms. She wanted to offer a place for kind, honourable men to connect with women, and to make their own arrangements, and to encourage all parties to consider the best interest of the child. With IVF the child will not know his or her father- until the age of 18. While that may work for many- it isnt the best arrangement for others. Through FSDW many donors play an 'uncle' type role, and some would even wish to co-parent. Is this not of benefit to the child in many situations? A child born from sperm donation - where neither parent or child know anything about each other - can cause all sorts of emotionally problems.
This topic is a difficult one- and there is no 'right' or 'wrong' answer. However Emma's concern was that so many women seemed to be choosing one night stands, or making choices regarding pregnancy- without a discussion with the man involved, before the conception occured. Men could find themselves being chased for child support - whereas the FSDW donors and women / couples who use this service tend to really want this- and take a much more responsible, educated approach to the matter. Both parties are in agreement BEFORE conception - reducing potential problems in the future.
Of course there are more risks when choosing this route- legal issues (discussed on our free info pages) health issues (HIV can fail to show up in a test- and show up six month later- which is why frozen sperm is quarantined) and more. So, as well as offering people choices, Emma has tried to offer guidance and support, so that people can at least reduce the risks as best they can if they decide they want to choose this route. Information about sperm donor testing is available, donor agreement documents available, including information about getting pregnant as quickly as possible- not just for the mother's sake- but also so that time is not wasted on the part of the donor. These donors all register to donate without charge, AI only, and so it is the responsibility of the recipients to do her part to facilitate a quick conception.
Emma personally replies to all emails- and offers advice regarding meeting the emotional needs of children born form sperm donation- when and how to tell them, what issues they should consider and work through and more.
This all takes alot of time and effort - which is why, in part, subscription fees are charged. However she strongly believes that if this was offered for free- the connections part of this service- then women who have not really considered this fully, might decide to 'just give it a go'. Charging a membership fee wont stop that- but it will make some women stop and think before proceding. Membership fees are in line with dating site membership fees- even though the potential rewards are arguable worth far more. Of course sperm donors arent charged- why would we charge these amazing men- who are helping so many women and infertile couples fulfil their dream of being a parent? However FSDW donors- and women- are obliged to conduct themselves honourably- and to abide by the behaviour code. We have such a supportive members area- with blogs posted etc- that when members post anything in the slightest bit offensive, or donors seem to suggest there are looking for sex, or payment, they are immediately bumped off. As Emma moderates the site herself, standards of high- and this is why FSDW remains the most popular private sperm donation connections website on the internet. Almost a 1000 successful pregnancies since 2004 with over 2500 registered donors! Many of our testimonials shown below. We hope you'll be sending us your success story too.
If you have any questions,
please email Emma - info@free-sperm-donations.com
Emma - who is British- is now living and working in sunny Queensland Australia- within her office 'Pink Bubblez™
More info here soon
